A piece from Tony Robbins recently caught my eye while on social media,
quoting “Research shows that 80% of people give up on their New Year’s resolution by the 2nd week of February!”
Part of me wasn’t surprised when I read this, thinking about some of my own New Year’s resolutions in the past.
And it got me thinking about what drives us to achieve some, while we give up on others?
“A New Year’s resolution is a tradition, in which a person resolves to change an undesired trait or behavior, to accomplish a personal goal or otherwise improve their life.”
Some key factors to consider when creating your New Year’s resolutions:
1. Are they your desires or are they still the remnants of what society, family, etc. have left you believing you want?
2. Are they goals that set your heart and soul alight or ones that you believe will bring you money, happiness, etc.
3. Are you willing to do whatever it takes to achieve or reach them? I’ve had people say “you are just lucky”. Is waking up 6am on weekends or on holidays while everyone else is at the beach sitting in front of my laptop until I completed what I wanted to for my book that day, for months on end considered lucky?
4. Are we willing to get uncomfortable and push outside our comfort zone? The willingness to keep going when fear, doubt, insecurity, lack of security/safety presents itself (and often along the journey).
5. Is the goal based on reality or fantasy? Often, the fantasy, how we think it will be when we have or achieve that goal, can be very different to the reality once you reach the goal.
6. Are your resolutions driven by your desire of what others will think of you or what you think of yourself?
Another beneficial tool when creating your New Year’s resolutions is having a plan for each goal. A timeline, as such, of how you plan to achieve that goal. The steps you will take to get there. Otherwise, it is so easy for days, weeks and months to pass by. Having the goal set out or a plan in place to achieve it, serves as a visual reminder of that first spark of enthusiasm and excitement for that goal, especially as time passes by and you must keep working towards achieving that goal. Allowing some flexibility for life’s timing of that goal coming to fruition.
Considering the above points, if you look at your New Year’s resolutions again, is there anything that has changed or feels different for you? I would love for you to share with me.
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